{"id":2303,"date":"2025-10-21T15:28:54","date_gmt":"2025-10-21T15:28:54","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/arielsimpson.com\/?p=2303"},"modified":"2025-10-21T20:59:14","modified_gmt":"2025-10-21T20:59:14","slug":"why-the-best-leaders-say-thats-none-of-my-business","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/arielsimpson.com\/index.php\/2025\/10\/21\/why-the-best-leaders-say-thats-none-of-my-business\/","title":{"rendered":"Why the Best Leaders Say “That’s None of My Business”"},"content":{"rendered":"\n

There\u2019s a book making the rounds right now, Let Them<\/em> by Mel Robbins, and I love that it\u2019s getting leaders to think about letting go of control. But it\u2019s also just one piece of a much bigger puzzle: the work of empowering others. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

As leaders, we often take on too much responsibility for other people\u2019s feelings, choices, and outcomes. We think if someone\u2019s struggling, we should fix it. If they\u2019re about to make a mistake, we should stop them. This shows up as micromanaging, hovering over our teams, or feeling like we can\u2019t relax until everyone else is okay. It\u2019s exhausting, and ironically, it doesn\u2019t actually help anyone grow. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Lately, my own mantra has been: \u201cThat\u2019s none of my business.\u201d <\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

As a recovering control freak, I understand the impulse to offer advice, to correct, to quietly manage everyone else\u2019s outcomes. It\u2019s not that I don\u2019t care; it\u2019s that I care too much, and caring can turn into controlling before I even notice. But here\u2019s the truth I keep coming back to: other people need to make their own choices. They need to live with the consequences, learn from them, and grow in their own time. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Our lives are<\/span><\/strong> our choices. Trying to take a choice away from someone, even with the best intentions, is a kind of violation. It says, \u201cI don\u2019t trust you to live your own life.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So now, when I feel that old urge to manage, I remind myself: \u201cThat\u2019s none of my business.\u201d <\/p>\n\n\n\n

It doesn\u2019t mean I stop caring. It means I respect that person\u2019s autonomy enough to let them live their story. And honestly, it\u2019s such a relief. You don\u2019t have to judge yourself for being judgmental, or fix your controlling impulses before you\u2019re allowed to rest. You can just notice them, breathe, and let go. Letting people be who they are, and trusting yourself to do the same, isn\u2019t disengagement\u2014it\u2019s empowerment. It\u2019s what allows others to step into their own growth while freeing you to lead with trust, focus, and calm.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Photo by Jeremy Yap<\/a> on Unsplash<\/a><\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

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