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Feedback: “It’s just data.”
I once worked for a psychologist who specialized in learning and cognition. He trained Olympic gymnasts, and he used to push back hard on the

The Drama Triangle Part 2: How Leaders Get Pulled Into Drama (and How to Step Out)
In the last post, I introduced the Drama Triangle as a function of lost agency. It’s not bad behavior or emotional immaturity, it’s just responsibility

The Drama Triangle: Why Leadership Can Feel Lonely
Most leaders don’t experience drama as chaos or conflict. They experience it as quiet, persistent strain. You feel like the office cop, constantly noticing what’s

Focus Isn’t About Discipline. It’s About Choice.
At the start of a new year, a lot of people tell me they want to feel more focused. They want to feel effective instead

Accountability Is a Conversation
Several years ago, I heard Ari Weinzweig— co-founding partner of the Zingerman’s Community of Businesses in Ann Arbor— speak. During the Q+A, someone in the audience

Why the Best Leaders Say “That’s None of My Business”
There’s a book making the rounds right now, Let Them by Mel Robbins, and I love that it’s getting leaders to think about letting go

If You Haven’t Said It Out Loud, It’s Not a Boundary
Boundaries are my favorite coaching topic. My first therapist introduced me to the concept twenty years ago, and it changed my life. I’m always eager

How Elon Musk destroyed a colossal pile of cash in six months: Culture Clash
Writing this week is John Graham. He co-founded Guildmaster Consulting, specializing in management coaching. For more content like this, check out Guildmaster’s blog and follow

Three Keys to Being a Customer-Centric Leader
[By Ariel Simpson, originally published May 2021 at EngagedAgility.com] When creating a new product or service or even an entire business, it’s common to make profit

Urgent vs Important: How to Make Your Goals Reality
Imagine driving down the highway drinking a warm cup of coffee. There are a lot of cars around you, and you’re cruising at about 65

Mr. Miyagi vs. Professor Xavier: Which Leader are You?
[By Ariel Simpson, originally published December 2019 at EngagedAgility.com] Lately I seem to be hearing the same question from everyone I meet: how much expertise

The Best Bike Frame Maker in the Land
[By Ariel Simpson, originally published February 2021 at EngagedAgility.com] I vividly recall my first Agility coach preaching to me, “Don’t get five projects halfway done;